BRAVE'S RULE FOR SUCCESS: REALIZE LIFE IS A GAMBLE AND YOU HAVE TERRIBLE ODDS
Everyone has BIG dreams for themselves.
We all want to be rich and famous, but these things require more than desire to obtain they require skill and talent, genius ideas, charisma, beauty, privilege, intelligence.
I cannot tell you how many people I have met who have said they want to be rich, but they do not have even one idea how to make big money, or what about the person who thinks she could easily do what Julia Roberts does, but doesn't have that big Hollywood smile or any experience in acting.
Guess what Hollywood, is traditionally a place for the very gorgeous and though a few fat and funny people break in they break in for their talent and charisma.
Guess what, if you do not even have a single business proposal in mind when talking about becoming rich, you are just talking and talk is cheap. You are likely going to be living pay check to pay check like the majority.
You might of had positive and optimistic parents who told you could do anything, grow up to be president or an astronaut, well they lied.
You are limited to what you can do by your natural talents, looks, gender, social and economic situation.
The world is racists and sexists and these things do limit your opportunities and make you very vulnerable and likely to become a statistic. Like if you are woman you will likely hashtag #metoo and if you are a black male your odds of seeing the inside of a jail are very high.
I am not trying to paint a bleak picture, I am just trying to acknowledge certain realities about life that might make it easier to navigate.
See, if you can realize your odds are not very good, but life is a gamble, maybe you can at least make an informed decision about which game to gamble on at the casino. The slots might be your thing.
Life is a gamble. The truth is the odds were never in your favor, but if you can accept that maybe you can practice your poker face and realize to be a skilled gambler requires risk assessment and skill like everything else. Gambling is not about luck. It's about playing to begin with and you are playing a game designed for you to lose, but set up in a way to make you feel like you might win.
Now, you have systematic and societal limitations placed on you in all countries, but of course freedom is greater and lesser in many countries.
There are many countries where you have a good chance for economic success as a woman. There are many countries you had no real chance if you were born a woman for economic success no matter what you did or how you molded yourself.
We are limited by the country, city and family we are born into and we are limited by our own genetics and IQ.
Some people are just not smart enough to become doctors and trust me you would not want them operating on you.
Some people are just not athletic enough to become basketball players.
Some people are just not beautiful enough to become models and the list goes on......
Some people will likely die at the mercy of the harsh conditions they were born into and though there are good people in the world who care, you will probably never be on their radar, so no my friend, Julia Roberts is not just going to step foot off the red carpet and come give you a helping hand in life.
You see successful people usually deserve their success, we just think it's unfair because life isn't fair.
The first step you can take towards making progress in your life is be realistic about your expectations. Don't let you ego give you delusions of grandeur and be honest about your prospects of becoming famous in New York or LA before running off to become rich and famous because that is how a lot of people become homeless in these cities.
Honestly, just the other week I saw a 16 your old girl talking about running off to new York and starting a music career and their was this whole audience of delusional people telling her to do it and follow her heart and her dreams.
These were the facts, the girl was below average in looks. She had no charisma and she certainly did not have the confidence necessary for a place like New York. Following her heart would have probably landed her in a sex trafficking ring due to the reality of survival and paying rent and the girl's nativity would have left her vulnerable to predators, not to mention she is just not a star or talented.
The harsh reality is you are likely average and not significant, so you likely should down size your dreams.
The first step to being successful in life is you have to access situations and yourself realistically. If you are not sure what you are capable of assume you are average at best. If you have a burning desire in your soul to do something, nobody is stopping you either. Take the gamble, just know you had an incredibly high chance of losing anyway if it did not workout, but hey a very few people do walk away with millions.
There are games were your odds are 50/50 1/10 and 1/999,999,999
In most cases you should take the safer bet because you are likely very average and life already has a lot of risk involved. People who tell you to follow your dreams are sending the average person on a suicide mission to be honest.
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