Two Lost Letters but no Love Lost
I have not been dreading this day.
I actually had no idea this day would come.
It started off much like yesterday. The “trouble and strife” was away for a couple of days on assignment in Wuxi so it fell to me to be up at the break of dawn and making pancakes for little Ashley. I snuck some chocolate chips into my batter, poured three perfect circles in the pan, and revved up the Nespresso machine.
She scoffed down half a pancake as I prep’d her rucksack for school. And then it happened.
“Dad, can I have a yogurt?”
That single sentence killed me. I wasn’t angry that she didn’t like my pancakes. Nor that she didn’t say please.
No, this was serious.
She called me “Dad”.
I was no longer “Daddy”.
All of a sudden she decided to drop two letters and call me "Dad". I mean, what the heck? She’s only four! This ain’t no democracy. Well at least until she’s eighteen. We live in Communist China for heaven’s sake. I am the Premier in my household. What I say, goes, or you’ll end up shoving coal in Inner Mongolia young lady!
“You call me Daddy” I quipped in a huff.
“No, you are Dad! And where is my yogurt?”
And that was it. All of a sudden, my name had changed.
I have no idea where this came from. Well perhaps I do. It’s those damn cartoons. Think about it. It’s always Dad in the cartoons, never Daddy. I’m kinda glad we are not living in France or I could have woken up to “Papa” this morning. I thought back. Way back. Must have been nine or ten when I started calling my father Dad, but that was when he was not around. I mean it’s embarrassing to speak to your friends about your Daddy. So Dad he became. It could have been "father". I’d always thought the word “father” a little Downton Abbeyish. It works well on paper, but spoken with a British accent. Nah.
So I had no choice but to accept my fate. Could have been worse I suppose. My mother insisted we all call her by her first name for frikkin’ sake.
Incidentally I worked many a 15-hour day, from stocking supermarket shelves in the early days to slaving away in front of trading terminals. I just did 2 days worth of single parenting.
Single parents out there….
Respect!
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Sarah Elkins
7年前 #36
Don't correct her, Dean Owen. She'll figure it out soon enough. The only time I corrected our boys for things like that was when I knew they'd be embarrassed in front of their peers if I didn't. Just enjoy it for now, you know it will go away soon!
Dean Owen
7年前 #35
is it not compulsory in kindergarten? It is here in China, and was in Singapore and Japan too. I guess when English is the native language, the people that be think another language is not necessary. I also did French (and Latin), but it is quite difficult to learn in your teens if your only exposure is a one hour class, 5 days a week. Very easy if someone plonks you in the foreign country.
Dean Owen
7年前 #34
pasgetti! Now that is funny. My girl calls this thing I am typing on an ipapad! I don't want to correct her!
Lisa Gallagher
7年前 #33
It's amazing how fast children pick up a second language Dean Owen, that's why I've always been a proponent of kids being taught a second Language in America from Kindergarten or 1st grade on up. I learned French (remember very little) in HS and it was hard. I took Spanish in College and I was unable to learn transitions with verbs and adjectives. The class was only 1 night a week and sort of like a speed class. I had to drop out. Most of the adults in that class were either refreshing what they already knew or did Business in Mexico and Spain.
Sarah Elkins
7年前 #32
Dean Owen
7年前 #31
Thanks Lisa. Enjoying every moment, especially now we can actually hold conversations and at 4, she is completely bilingual. Amazing I have been in China 9 years now, and can't speak the language, but at 4 she is fluent...
Lisa Gallagher
7年前 #30
Dean Owen
7年前 #29
I am surprised to learn that Appa is also the word for father in Korea, Hungary and Tibet!
Dean Owen
7年前 #28
Because that title really needs to be earned I've added a short (15 sec) video that I took last week to the buzz :) Thanks Fatima!
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
7年前 #27
Dean Owen Thanks for the Kind comment ( First need to get married LOL) . I don't celebrate Diwali but looking forward to Christmas just a month and a half left. BTW you are one amazing DAD Oops sorry One amazing Daddy and we can all see that.#rockstardaddy
Dean Owen
7年前 #26
I am petrified Ken-san, of actually losing her in a shopping mall or wherever as it was pointed out to me that if you lose a child in China, China being so huge, you'd probably never see her again. Need to Find your Child app!
Dean Owen
7年前 #25
I'm way ahead of you there with three girls, the eldest of which is dating her college heartthrob, the captain of the American Football team.
Dean Owen
7年前 #24
Thanks. I used to fear fatherhood but there is nothing like it.
Dean Owen
7年前 #23
I have no doubt you'll be a beautiful caring mom when the time comes Fatima Williams. Thanks for stopping by. Wish you a Happy Diwali if you celebrate it.
Dean Owen
7年前 #22
do you like your knees lol 😬. That was an IRA tactic if I recall rightly. I remember delivering a girl back to her parents in the morning after swatting for exams the whole night. Her boisterous father was standing by the road waiting. As soon as I turned up in my Renault 5 he came storming toward us, fist in the air. Naturally I chickened out and drove off...I was a wimpy teen.
Ken Boddie
7年前 #21
Paul Walters
7年前 #20
Mohammed Abdul Jawad
7年前 #19
🐝 Fatima G. Williams
7年前 #18
Gert Scholtz
7年前 #17
Pascal Derrien
7年前 #16
Pascal Derrien
7年前 #15
Dean Owen
7年前 #14
Scottish heritage? What, do they call you Braveheart or Ken the Bruce?
Dean Owen
7年前 #13
Probably easy to create a synthetic durian flavoured yogurt taste, but synthesising the smell is a challenge. I actually had a durian egg tart an hour ago, was quite yummy.
Ken Boddie
7年前 #12
you forget my Scots heritage, Dean. As for the durian flavour, if 'they' can spoil ice cream I'm sure 'they' can spoil yoghurt. I'll set my wife to the task. Sensory glands like a bloodhound. If she can't find it it doesn't exist.
Dean Owen
7年前 #11
So what do they call you now Ken-san? I was wondering as I wrote what the natural progression was. Reading this thread it appears it is Daddy to Dad to ATM.
Dean Owen
7年前 #10
I think I had every right to give her durian yogurt for the rest of the week (wonder if that is even a product!? Hmmm, my next venture?)
Dean Owen
7年前 #9
Ouch! Hopefully I'll be able to turn things around and call her my ATM. She made her TV debut at age one
Dean Owen
7年前 #8
You have to teach me the trick Vincent Andrew. She is adamant that I am dad and not daddy. Not only that, she changes her own name every year. When she was one, she was Ashley, two, Chibi Maruko, three she insisted on being called teacher, and four Lovey. She has already chosen her name for next year - Fifi. Pa appears to be quite popular in SE Asia. Thanks for stopping by.
Dean Owen
7年前 #7
Enjoying and savouring every minute of it Irene, but I feel for all the single parents out there emptying and washing baby toilets many times a day.... I mean I do have an Ayi (maid), but I feel it is not her job to do toilet duty..... But you, 13 years of it .... I bow in respect.
Dean Owen
7年前 #6
Thanks Laurent. I'm thinking kids grow up faster these days as they are bombarded with input whereas in the past they had their family, friends, radio and books.
Dean Owen
7年前 #5
Yes, if she called me father at four years old, I might have had a heart attack. I mean, what's wrong with Daddy? I wonder if I should enforce martial law....
Ken Boddie
7年前 #4
Ken Boddie
7年前 #3
Kevin Pashuk
7年前 #2
Laurent Boscherini
7年前 #1