Mean Girls Are Navy Sailors Too
Probably that hardest part about being at boot-camp is the girls. If you are lucky you will get a good division, where everyone gets a long and supports each other, but that's not always the case. There are a lot of mean girls trying to enlist and the worse part is they are just out of high-school, so a lot of them have that high school mentality, which means a lot of gossip and backstabbing.
Unfortunately, this gossip can be detrimental to some careers before they even start. Some of the RDC'S are kind of lazy. RDC's are the division leaders. Instead of investigating the reports and speaking with all parties involved, a lot of RDC's will just make a false report of the gossip like it is fact and then it becomes fact, because the girls gossip has now been written down by a Petty Officer. This is the thing I like the least about my experience so far in the Navy. That any girl can just go say anything about you to a Petty Officer, and it pulls up in a system whether it is true or not, for the rest of your Navy Career or at least a portion.
I really think when people are going to make acquisitions the other party should be present. The person documenting it should at least inform them an acquisition has been made and hear both sides of the story. A lot of times that doesn't happen here. There is not even an investigation before false accusations are documented in your file.
These petty girls told a Petty Officer my friend was masturbating. Thought it's kind of funny. It's embarrassing. Now when she talk to the Chiefs he goes Bret, you were Masturbating!! This makes her look like a pervert. It ruins her credibility and it is just stupid. Nobody in their right mind would masturbate in front of over 100 girls, when they are trying to start a professional career, granted I have never seen so much vagina in my life. We eat, sleep and shit together.
So how do you handle the Mean Sailor Girls?!?!?! To be honest the best way to handle this is to be like Jesus. The more you fight back the more you look guilty, the more people want to hang you. It's better just to ignore it, no matter how much you want to get them back, KEEP YOU MOUTH SHUT.
Girls here will say the most messed up things to you because they are 18, disrespectful and have never paid a bill in their life. Keep in mind they are little girls playing little girl games and though it's infuriating, even sabotaging your career, it's nothing you can't handle.
There will be a time to address the gossip, and when that time comes it's best to be stoic. To take all emotion out of it and report only the facts. The point of gossip is to make you angry. S/he who is angry loses. Get Angry in boot camp and you are very close to getting the boot.
My experience here has given me a crash course in GRACE. I'm learning to bite my tongue no matter what slander gets thrown my way, but I'm also learning to stand up for myself.
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