BEE BRAVE ENOUGH TO GET OUT EARLY
We can see the warning signs when things aren't going well, but why are we slow to react. In the 21st century our flight or fight response goes off all the time, but because we are not literally in danger, sometimes we don't flee when need bee. Sometimes we stick around and suffer emotionally, financially and mentally because we feel obligated, or like we need to be responsible. Mostly we stay because we are scared we won't find better. Most people greatly underestimate themselves.
How many years have you stayed at a dead end job that underpays you, just to pay for an apartment that is too small and in an area you don't like?
How many times have you sat on the couch when you wanted to go out dancing on a Friday night, but your boyfriend hates to dance?
How many times have you wanted to buy an awesome phone, computer or car, but had to settle for a cheaper less cool device because your job wasn't paying you enough?
How many times have you had unsatisfying sex with your partner or even worse NO SEX :(
Whether it bee a job that is going awful or a relationship that is dreadfully boring or a friendship that is abusive, get out fast. A lot of times we end up staying in awful situations for years, simply because they are not bad enough or because the situation isn't even bad, the situation is okay just not great. We don't really love him or her, but they are there.We don't really feel supported by our friend, but they are there. We don't really like our job or get paid our desired salary, but we have a job. Things don't have to be bad to leave. Things only being okay is also good enough reason to try something new.
This is the settling trap most people run into and i'm telling you as soon as you notice a person, relationship or situation is not for you, get out of it. Don't hang around expecting things to change. Though their is a chance a bad situation can get better, the most likely outcome is it won't, you will just waste time and get more hurt along the way. Don't think you can change your boss, don't think you can change your roommate or your mother, just get out.
According to Natural News, "In fact, in one survey of 6,000 men, 31% of them openly confessed that they would be willing to settle for someone they didn't love. And 21% even claimed they'd partner up with someone they found unattractive. These are they who were willing to admit it."
v. set·tled, set·tling, set·tles
1. To end or resolve (a dispute, for example) by making a decision or coming to an agreement. See Synonyms at decide.
a. To resolve (a lawsuit or dispute) by mutual agreement of the parties rather than by court decision.
b. To make the determinations and distributions of (a trust).
a. To make compensation for (a claim).
b. To pay (a debt).
a. To put into order; arrange as desired: settle one's affairs.
b. To place or arrange in a desired position: settled the blanket over the baby; settled herself in an armchair.
c. To agree to or fix in advance: settled the date of the meeting in June.
a. To establish as a resident or residents: settled her family in Ohio.
b. To migrate to and establish residence in; colonize: Pioneers settled the West.
c. To establish in a residence, business, or profession: was finally settled in his own law practice.
6. To restore calmness or comfort to: The hot tea settled his nerves.
a. To cause to sink, become compact, or come to rest: shook the box to settle the raffle tickets.
b. To cause (a liquid) to become clear by forming a sediment.
1. To discontinue moving and come to rest in one place: The ball settled in the grass near the green.
2. To move downward; sink or descend, especially gradually: Darkness settled over the fields. Dust settled in the
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